Just had breakfast and read through my workbook a bit. I learned about the eight most common “limited thinking patterns,” including:
- Filtering: You focus on the negative details while ignoring all the positive aspects of a situation
- Polarized thinking: Things are black and white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you’re a failure. There’s no middle ground, no room for mistakes.
- Overgeneralization: You reach a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. You exaggerate the frequency of problems and use negative global labels.
- Mind reading: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you have certain knowledge of how people think and feel about you.
- Catastrophizing: You expect, even visualize, disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start asking, “what if?” What if tragedy strikes? What if it happens to you?
- Magnifying: You exaggerate the degree or intensity of a problem. You turn up the volume on anything bad, making loud, large, and overwhelming.
- Personalization: You assume that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compre yourself to others, trying to determine who is smarter, more competent, better looking, and so on.
- Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you, and you feel guilty when you violate the rules.
This blog has reached nearly 500 followers, and I haven’t posted in 2-3 months. I feel awful. In these past few months, I’ve been really, really struggling with self esteem and body image, and for awhile I was too low to workout or eat right. To be honest, I was too ashamed to log-in and update, because I only had bad news and bad vibes to share.
About a month ago, I gave up counting calories. Not because I did not feel the need to, not because I reached my goal weight, and not because I realized I was too good for it. I was totally losing steam. As of now, I’ve lost my fight and my fire for fitness. I feel defeated. I never reached my goal weight. I lost a good amount of weight, but never physically saw the results in the mirror (the only people who did see the changes were my friends and family - what a rip off). I preached healthy eating and good fats and fun workouts, but mentally, I wasn’t in a good place. I’m not in a good place as I type this.
Rosie Huntington-Whiteley, Adriana Lima and Alessandra Ambrosio with and without make up !
Also without: their hair professionally done, professional lighting, shadows and angles and the ever present usage of professional digital editing software such as Photoshop.
And guess what…they look NORMAL. Just like any other woman. Unless you get all of the above mentioned perks too, it’s not fair to compare yourself to manipulated photographs of normal looking women.
Use your eyes and see that what you’re killing yourself to look like is fake and manufactured beauty. Those women look just fine without all of the bullshit they do to make them deemed socially sexy. And so do you.
picture it: you’re in a beautiful banquet hall filled with tables covered in platters of your favorite foods; soups, pastas, desserts, and all 1737472 variations of pizza. milkshakes. the whole 9. and for the rest of eternity you’re stuck in this room with the worst stuffy nose of your life. your nose is so clogged and ya can’t taste anything. any of it. EVER!!!